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Whether you are just starting your personal growth adventure or you are a veteran looking for key development areas to work on in your life, you can’t go wrong with these 10 personal growth goals.
1. Learn to Love Yourself.
I remember when I first heard the phrase “love yourself”. Of course, I love myself, I thought. But did I really? I repeated the words, “I love myself” but every single time I said it, I cringed a little bit. I didn’t believe it and my brain knew it. No matter how much I tried to “trick” me into loving myself, it just wasn’t working. That negative voice in my head kept having some pretty awful things to say and I just couldn’t break free of that voice.
It took me several years of medications, therapy, diet, and exercise to finally get to a healthy place of self-love. But you don’t have to take several years to master this. The best thing that worked for me was doing the right affirmations. What are those you ask? Well, I’m sure you’ve heard of affirmations before. Essentially they are phrases you say each and every day (sometimes several times a day) until they are so ingrained in you that you fully and wholeheartedly believe them.
The reason saying “I love myself” as an affirmation didn’t work was because it was SO far out there for me, that I literally thought that it was impossible.
So I had to break it down a little further. First, I found one thing about myself that I knew I loved. Like my hair for example. For a few days, I said the affirmation “I have beautiful, long hair”. After a few days of that (and it helped to actually fix my hair up those days), I added to it. “I have beautiful hair and gorgeous blue eyes”. After a few more days, I bumped up my affirmation game to “I have beautiful eyes and I’m a gorgeous and funny person”. And so on and so forth.
The other thing I did was I cut out negative self-talk. Which was NOT easy. I didn’t realize how much negative self-talk I actually did until I focused on it. Even joking self-deprecation can be harmful. Like when you make a mistake and say, “Oh my goodness, I’m so stupid”. Don’t do that. Don’t talk to yourself like that. Give yourself a ton of grace and talk to yourself like you would encourage a child that makes mistakes. Say that’s ok, figure out how you can learn from it and move on.
2. Create and Maintain Healthy Habits.
This can really be a struggle for some people, but let me tell you, it’s a game changer, especially when you eat right. Food can either heal you or make you sick. When you are eating the right foods you don’t feel bloated, constipated. You don’t have headaches or body aches. Your body can heal things like that sore back you have.
I could go on and on and on about the benefits of eating truly healthy but we’d be here forever if that is the case. What I’ve found has worked for me is doing the 131 Plan. It’s a way of eating unlike no other. It’s based on our biology and backed by science and it just makes sense, for me. Find what’s right for you and stick to it.
While we’re on the topic of health, get into working out regularly. I’m sure you’ve heard several times over and over the benefits of exercise. Don’t just do it for weight loss, do it because of how it makes you feel. Trust that it may take a few weeks to feel the benefits of exercise but it is SO worth it! Also, vary your workouts between cardio and strength training. You won’t bulk up by strength training, trust me!! Find something you love and that energizes you.
3. Practice Gratitude.
One of the best success tips that I constantly hear is this right here. Practice gratitude. The best way to do this is daily. Which, can obviously be a bit cumbersome, but stick with me here. If you are consistently being grateful for the things you have and that have happened to you, you are way more likely to achieve happiness. But this also lets the universe know that you are grateful for what you are getting and to send more of that awesome stuff your way. It’s positive energy. And you get what you put out.
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4. Learn Something New.
I love this one because it can be so much fun! Plus, if you want to grab your hubby or bestie and try something new together. This can be a painting class, guitar lessons, ice skating, or something you’ve always wanted to try but just haven’t yet for some reason. Use this as your excuse to broaden your horizon and work your brain muscles.
5. Become a Master of Your Time.
Managing our time can be a tedious daunting task. However, if we don’t manage time, time will control us. It’s important to be diligent when planning out your day. By mastering your time and your schedule this will set up for success exponentially. Do you have a big long list of things to do? Narrow that down to the top 3 things that you need to do and go from there. Managing time is much easier to do in bitesize chunks.
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6. Make Connections.
If you are an introvert this will help push you out of your comfort zone. Find a meetup or a local social gathering through Facebook of groups that get together that have similar interests as you do. Meeting new people and making connections can open up so many new opportunities to you.
Next time you are in a public place make an effort to meet someone new each time. Open up the conversation and ask an open-ended question like “Is this your favorite coffee place?” (or wherever you are). This will get the conversation going and open up to possibly meet up with this person again.
You can also do this online. Go to any groups you are part of and strike up a conversation. It’s usually best to start the conversation in the group and then ask if you can private message the person to make a further connection. If you run your own business, these tips can be a huge catalyst for finding new customers.
7. Conquer a Fear.
Fear holds people back so much in their lives and they always regret the things they didn’t do because of fear. Whether that be meeting new people (see above), petting a snake, holding a spider, or taking a flight. Whatever fear you may have, make it a huge goal to conquer it. Just imagine how confident you’d feel by doing that! The most successful people learn how to conquer those fears that are truly holding them back.
8. Help Others.
I am going to talk about the universe again on this one. It is in our nature to help others. We should be helping others on a regular basis (daily, if possible). There are so many ways that you can help other people who truly need it. Volunteer at a local church, charity, shelter, etc. You can volunteer your time locally to help those in your community. This can be such a fulfilling experience because you’ll get to see who you are helping and get the immediate gratification of doing this.
Donate money. Giving money to your favorite charity, buying groceries for a needy family, buying a meal for the person behind you in line. It all counts and it all helps. There was a challenge I heard of someone doing where they gave money every day for 30 days and what they got back was 10 times what they gave.
When we give to others and help them we are putting that positive energy out to the universe. And like I said before, the energy you put out you receive.
9. Learn the Art of Consistency.
So tell me, have you ever started a project or a goal, but only got about halfway through and then gave up? Maybe you bought a program that was going to help you start your business and make thousands within weeks, but you got distracted by a new offer 2 weeks into the old program. Or maybe you started that 90-day workout program and after about 3 weeks just gave up. Yeah, I’ve been there, done that too. But last year I made it my mission to be more consistent. And by consistent I mean, if I start something, I FINISH it. And I MEAN FINISH IT. No doing it for a few weeks then giving up.
To truly be successful you need to be consistent. When you are making a change in your life, it’s hard to be consistent with the new rules you need to follow to make the changes you want to make. But it is vital to the success of your new task to stay the course completely.
10. Find Faith or Renew It.
The kind of faith I’m referring to here is to have faith in yourself. All too often we doubt ourselves and our abilities. But just as you may have faith in a God or source energy as I like to refer to it, you should have faith in yourself. Believing in yourself is very important to making that mindset shift you need to make to actually accomplish your big goals.
If you find that you have difficulty in finding faith in yourself, I want you to try this exercise. Write down every success you’ve ever had in your life. I know you might not remember them all, but try and keep a Success portion of your journal to look back on. Go all the back to childhood. Think of when you first successfully rode a bike without the help of your parents. Think of that huge school play you were in and you were worried you weren’t going to remember the lines, but 2 weeks before the first show you got every single line no problemo in dress rehearsal. What about that MVP award you got in your sport or activity? How about that time you overcame your fears and did a speech in public? Your first successful interview?
Seriously, do you realize how much you’ve already succeeded? It’s a lot, trust me! Write it all down. And then go back and look and realize that you need to have faith in yourself that you CAN do this!
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